eternally.

Mrs.J was raised as a strict eldest daughter among her siblings, married to a very good cook and bear five adorable kids. Mrs.J worked her ass off, bringing food from home to save money for lunch, sometimes walked few miles to work to save her change for tambang bas, and never ever in her working days she dine out in restaurants because she wants all her children have enough money for education. Time passes, the children gets good education, and the family expands with cute grandchildren. One fine day, they were bombarded with a heartbreaking news, and since then, the news rocked the family every single day. And it affects the extended family too. The news was, one of Mrs.J child was converting to other religion. Yes, a very sensitive issue. 

For me, I feel nothing if one of the family member decided to do so, because I believe in 'we just want to search for our own happiness'. I feel that he/she is mature enough to take on such big decision despite he/she knows how the family would react. I also feel that somehow the related person wants the support from his/her own family regarding his/her decision. There is zillions of couples that are built from mix marriage and they are standing still till this very moment. 

BUT,

on how you didn't show courtesy to your own family by simply take the decision : WRONG.

on how you never explains and tell the family bits by bits of the decision : WRONG

on how you lied to your own mother in order to shut her off from nagging : WRONG

on how you never come to your own cousin;s gathering but make yourself free for other people's event on the same area : WRONG

on how you say all is well, but you know how hurt your mother is : WRONG

for making all the elders cried and angry : WRONG

Decision to build a family needs a solid and bulletproof and strong base. One of the key component in that base is support from your own family. By blinded of love and put your own family behind you, you have made the biggest ever mistake. You are educated enough to think about how hurt and feels betrayed is your mother could be. She makes every steps of your life possible by supporting you till the day you decided to abandoned her. At times she nags a lot, yell a lot, and she sometimes didn't pay attention to your needs and your ideology. Family sometimes not perfectly give you the calamities of a home, but family is a gift that will stuck to you till your last breath because you share blood ties. After this, you are building your own family, imagine one fine day in the near future, your own child broke your heart like this, and at that time, maybe its too late to ask for forgiveness. Karma is scary, mind you. 

Family is blood ties that shared eternally. Even if you are the richest man on earth, you are still the child of the family. Even if you change your name, you are still a piece of the family. Blood ties bond you with the family eternally. Be blessed that you still have them. :)

Post ini tiada kaitan dengan yang hidup mahupun yang sudah meninggal dunia.

Currently reading Kate Kerrigan's Recepis for a Perfect Marriage. and I am not getting married. Just curious of the title and what would the book teach.

and one great song dedicated to all,

Dedicate that song to your loved ones, it says it all. :)

Happy Friday. Happy Becoming Weekends.

and dearest darling, be safe and do enjoy your Kerala trip. 12days without keeping contact with you. Do miss me. :P